WANNA EDGE?: If You're Gay, Doing Sexy Stuff in the Mirror Takes Auto-Eroticism to a Whole New Level

Jake Myers READ TIME: 4 MIN.

Last week, after moody pop-icon Billie Eilish told Rolling Stone she "wanted my face in a vagina", she went on to talk about masturbation.

"TMI, but self-pleasure is an enormous, enormous part of my life, and a huge, huge help for me. People should be jerking it, man. I can't stress it enough, as somebody with extreme body issues and dysmorphia that I've had my entire life," the Oscar-winning singer shared.

Eilish added that she likes to pleasure herself in front of her mirror.

"Partly because it's hot, but it also makes me have such a raw, deep connection to myself and my body, and have a love for my body that I have not really ever had. I got to say, looking at yourself in the mirror and thinking 'I look really good right now' is so helpful," she explained.

"You can manufacture the situation you're in to make sure you look good. You can make the light super dim, you can be in a specific outfit or in a specific position that's more flattering," the out musician continued. "I have learned that looking at myself and watching myself feel pleasure has been an extreme help in loving myself and accepting myself, and feeling empowered and comfortable."

Eilish brings up a good point: For some of us, looking in the mirror is not an easy thing. If there are things you don't like about your physical appearance, it's hard to have a positive experience when you're faced with those perceived flaws. Sexy time in a mirror can be a very intimate experience, and intimacy can be threatening. But like with other types of relationships, intimacy can be nurtured, and the mirror can give you the opportunity to foster it towards yourself, in a way that feels comfortable for you. Just like it might make you feel self-conscious to get naked in front of another person, the same can happen when looking at ourselves.

Maybe it's not easy to look at a certain body part, so you can start by focusing on something else at first, and grow from there. Or, as Billie points out, you can adjust the setting to see yourself in the best possible light. Take it slow, and eventually, maybe you'll be able to get off on yourself.

Couples have also enjoyed watching themselves having sex in the mirror for eons (remember when hotel rooms had mirrors on the ceiling?). So, can a solo mirror sesh be just as rewarding? Of course, as with everything, moderation is key. After all, if you're a mythology buff, you know Narcissus ultimately died becoming entranced by his own reflection in a pool, not catering to his other needs. So, the goal here isn't to become obsessed with yourself.

Instead, think of it as one more way to enhance your sexual pleasure. And if you end up building up a positive body image in the meanwhile, all the better. If it's not for you, that's OK too...some things feel like they're just smoke and mirrors.


by Jake Myers

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